Blogging is a huge challenge for me. Really, more accurately technology is a hard language to understand. Perhaps it is my age, perhaps lack of patience but whatever it is I get so upset when I can't get something right. After the first ten times, I want to scream and just give it up. I get so frustrated that the colors, texts and the font sizes are all different and I have not figured out how to edit them . I am truly trying to aim for a coherent view but I can't do it yet . I will not stop doing the blogging but perhaps in time I can manage the technology a bit more easily.
I often just give up with technology and say who cares anyway. However I do feel that blogging gives me a valuable way to express myself so that my unique and unusual ponderings don't keep going round and round in my head. It also gives you some insight into what is going on in my head. All of us walk around with our heads filled with so much really important stuff that blogging gives a voice to. I guess that I could say that the muses made me do it this way!
Friday, February 6, 2009
Whining and the Inner Child
I have been doing a lot of thinking about whining recently.Let's face it, we all love to whine. Recently, the favorite topics have been the cost of gas, the cold winter, politicians, cost of food, the FDA, etc. How many times do parents tell children, don't whine . Stop whining. Ask nicely. Stop complaining.
What if the whine contains important information that we are totally overlooking in our communications.The whine is a metaphor for a deeper connection to who we are. We don't have money to pay our exorbitantly high PSE&G bills , the mortgage, the doctors bills. Or my husband is mean to me, and my mother in law is nasty! You know the drill. What if all of those statments are a communication from the inner child! As adults we still feel unable to express our true feelings and they morph into whines. Whines can have a life of their own.
Let' s translate the whines into possible truths!
The PSE&G bill is too high- I am angry that you keep the heat up to high when you sleep or you forgo t to close the garage door and let in all of the cold air.
OR
My mother in law is mean- I feel that she does not like me going to work and wants me to stay home and raise the kids. I feel guilty enough.
OR
The cost of gas is too high- We really need to think about changing our lifestyle and I don't want to get rid of the hummer and get an Honda Civic.
I think that part of the human condition is that we do not like to change so we whine. Whining keeps changing at a distance. We whined as kids because it was really hard to make decisions for our selves and we got the underlying message which was to stop feeling!
It is probably time to own those strong feelings that we had as a child when we questioned everything, rebelled against rules, trusted our instincts, and dared to tell the truth. Down with whines! You know that the price of gas is going up again!!
What if the whine contains important information that we are totally overlooking in our communications.The whine is a metaphor for a deeper connection to who we are. We don't have money to pay our exorbitantly high PSE&G bills , the mortgage, the doctors bills. Or my husband is mean to me, and my mother in law is nasty! You know the drill. What if all of those statments are a communication from the inner child! As adults we still feel unable to express our true feelings and they morph into whines. Whines can have a life of their own.
Let' s translate the whines into possible truths!
The PSE&G bill is too high- I am angry that you keep the heat up to high when you sleep or you forgo t to close the garage door and let in all of the cold air.
OR
My mother in law is mean- I feel that she does not like me going to work and wants me to stay home and raise the kids. I feel guilty enough.
OR
The cost of gas is too high- We really need to think about changing our lifestyle and I don't want to get rid of the hummer and get an Honda Civic.
I think that part of the human condition is that we do not like to change so we whine. Whining keeps changing at a distance. We whined as kids because it was really hard to make decisions for our selves and we got the underlying message which was to stop feeling!
It is probably time to own those strong feelings that we had as a child when we questioned everything, rebelled against rules, trusted our instincts, and dared to tell the truth. Down with whines! You know that the price of gas is going up again!!
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